A week ago today, we ventured into the 3 day weekend method of potty training. It was terrifying! All we knew was what we had read...
-let them be naked
-watch them like a hawk
-ask if they need to use the potty every 15-20 min (ALL DAY LONG)
-when you see they need to pee take them to the bathroom
-if they have an accident, rush them to the bathroom or nearest potty to hopefully finish their peeing there, or at least help them understand the connection of their peeing and using the potty
Yeah, yeah, I read all of these basic directions in every post I could find on the method. But nothing could tell me what my boys were really going to do or how they would handle the whole thing. Oh, and there is practically NO information out there on potty training twins!! Like, would we have been better off doing this one at a time, or is it better to bite the bullet and get it over with all at once? That's the method we took, bite the bullet! Let's get this overwith. After all, with twins there is often curiosity or jealousy of what each other are doing constantly. So telling them to do different things with their waste probably would only confuse or upset them.
So anyways, we went for it. All in, lets potty train both at once. Let's get this done! And to be honest, the first four or five days felt like I was trying to watch two movies at once. I was constantly on a stakeout, scoping back and forth between the boys watching, waiting, for accidents, unreasonably terrified of cleaning a little pee or poop when I've been changing double duty in diapers for the last year and a half. When I finally realized accidents were going to happen and they would learn from them, I got past the anxiety of them. Instead I was terrified of failing them. I needed to be there for them, both of them, the minute they needed to go potty, or I was not doing my job to help them through this milestone. That was probably the hardest part in this, the pressure from yourself and hearing how other people gave up or it didn't work for them. But I knew they could do this, and I could help them get there. It was just going to take time, and a whole lot of effort from all of us.
Day 1 was rough. We watched them like hawks. I'm so grateful I had my husband home with me for the long weekend to help me get used to the new normal. I think they peed 15 times in the first few hours. It was like they had no Rhyme or rhythm to their schedule. Surprise surprise... we put them in diapers that catch their pee and poop every day for a year and a half, get them used to soiling themselves all day, then suddenly expect them to be in control of their own bodily functions and it's like a never ending faucet. But it gets better. After that first day, when they started to understand their bodies were in control, they started holding it and letting it out more fully. By day 5 I was feeling much more confident, and so were they. They knew the drill. They had a lot more rhythm, and I no longer felt like I was going cross eyed watching them both like hawks. I learned their rhythm and signs. CJ is more willing to tell me when he needs to go, while Greyson needs to be watched. But that's okay. I will take 1 out of 2 in that! (Twin mom constant realization... one can do it??? Meaning I only have to struggle with the other one? GREAT!! better than both!! I'll take it! )
So the best advice I can give anyone attempting potty training at any age, twins or not, is to stay consistent. Get on a schedule, so they can come to rely on it, and feel comfortable.
Our schedule goes something like this:
- wake up
-take pajamas and pull-ups off (we are not nighttraining yet)
-put a shirt on
-milk & bananas
-naps (with pull-ups and pants)
-milk & stories
By the end of potty training days, I'm exhausted! It takes a lot of consistency and effort on your part. Between the scheduled potty times, you have to still be on watch and take them if they ask or need to go. But it's so worth it. I can already tell they're getting there!
We ran into a few bumps. Like, Greyson wanted to pee during meals, in his high chair. I guess he felt more relaxed while he ate, haha! So we improvised. We moved them to the dining table, and used their potties as booster seats. They loved it! It was mainly for our own sanity though, because I was sick of cleaning up accidents from the high chair and watching them leak down onto the carpet. Then I began to worry about creating a habit, and how we would break it. Ugh, more anxiety, haha it was never ending.
Fast forward one week, and after spending 7 days naked (nay nay-CJ or nay-neck-Grey) inside, we moved on to underwear today!!! I woke up at 4:30 and couldn't fall back asleep I was so nervous. I just was terrified they'd think it was a diaper and start peeing in it immediately! But 30 min passed and they hadn't had any accidents. Then, an hour, and I was feeling at ease, like they really got it. My morning speech had really sunk in. I thought I might be talking to a wall, but I still tried. I told them, "these are special Elmo pants, and we don't pee or poop in them. We still use the potty. Let mama know when you have to pee or poop." Then they got their underpants. Both of them clearly tried to continue using the potty and holding it in between. It was amazing, and I finally felt better about this whole potty training ordeal. They DO get it, and they ARE learning!
So we aren't out of the woods yet, but we are getting there and training two at once under the age of two IS possible!! Don't get me wrong. It's been hard work, and I never want to do this again!!! Baby number 3 can have her diapers til she's four, I could care less! But these two are on their way out, and I am not going back now!
Goals for the next few weeks:
1. Poop on the potty
2. Get out of the house
3. Continue using the potty all day everyday
4. Use the potty somewhere other than home
More updates to come!! I hope this helps anyone wanting to try potty training before age two, or potty training twins!
We are at the halfway mark with our sweet girl, and I am not taking a second of this pregnancy for granted. I know everyone's experiences are different. I know it's not easy, but our bodies are incredible. I know, I know, I'm one of those "love being pregnant girls". Even when I was stuck in the hospital and bedridden last pregnancy, I still appreciated every second of it. I had waited long enough for this time, that it was all worth it to me. This time it's no different. I still get nervous before every appointment, and I'm sure that will happen until the baby is here. Then I'll be nervous for all new reasons!
Also, we named our girl! Her name will be Hazel Grace. It feels so good to have a name to call her. Everyone asks what we will call her and I keep thinking, um Hazel.... haha but I can understand wanting a nickname, too. So I think if I call her by a nickname, it will be Elle. With Grey, we can't exactly call her "Hay" without things getting confusing. The same goes for calling her by her middle name. Grace is just too close to Greyson and could get confusing. We do love the name though, and feel she's been given to us by the grace of God. So it is very fitting.
I keep being asked how this pregnancy has been different than the last one with the twins. First of all, nausea, nausea, nausea!! It was 24-7 during the first trimester. Thankfully she's taking it easy on me now in the second Tri. But I also felt her kicks much sooner than the boys. I felt the twins at 17 weeks, but started feeling her at 11 weeks! And probably the biggest difference I'm noticing now is the way I'm growing seems so different. With the twins, I suddenly popped around 18-19 weeks and when I popped, that was it! I had my belly and it only grew from there. With this baby, I feel like some days I wake up feeling very pregnant and others, I can barely find my belly. Trust me. Last week I looked bigger than I do today... see pictures below. I wore the same outfit just for the picture so you can see the difference better! Anyone else ever noticed that with second pregnancies? Or is it a girl vs boy pregnancy thing? I have no idea, but it keeps me guessing what outfits I'll fit into on a regular basis!
God is good. All looked well today at our anatomy scan, and here is my favorite shot of baby girl, looking like a sleepy little doll face!
It's been two years since my pregnancy with the twins, and we couldn't be happier to announce that we are expecting a little sister late September! This pregnancy falls almost exactly in line with my twin pregnancy, only off by a day! How that happened, just lucky I guess. But this girl is excited to have all her maternity clothes matched up for the right seasons, that's for sure.
This pregnancy has been so different than the twins' was. For starters, I haven't passed out in a Joanns Fabric store, or anywhere else, so that's a plus! Throughout the twins' pregnancy I would constantly feel bouts of dizziness as my vision would go, followed by ringing in my ears until my hearing would go too. If I didn't lie down soon enough, I could pass out. Luckily i only passed out once and as the pregnancy went on, I knew when the dizzy spells were coming on and could at least prevent passing out. I also found that protein bars, almonds and water were my best defense. You could find those all in my purse at any given time. For real, I was in two weddings and carried all those things to both. I haven't escaped the dizzy spells this pregnancy, either, but I've prevented passing out thus far.
With the twins, I was rarely nauseous in the first trimester. I had bouts here and there, but nothing too bad. With this sweet girl, I was nauseous 24-7 the first 13 weeks. My poor husband would sweetly ask what I wanted for dinner, only to hear me gag in response from the thought of food. He's a good man, putting up with all my antics this pregnancy! The mood swings have been intense, whereas with the twins I was always pretty happy and even keeled.
I know I've talked about our struggle with getting pregnant with the twins, so I have to explain how completely different this experience was. It's different for everyone, but I hope this can give hope to people who may have struggled with their first or could be struggling now. I'd like to think that the pregnancy with the twins reset my body, but for whatever reason, this time was different. Our little girl was not our first pregnancy since the twins. She was our rainbow after our first loss.
Over the summer, we had a surprise pregnancy when the twins were only 9 months. We were not quite prepared for it, but excited none the less. We knew we wanted more, we just hadn't expected to have more so soon. We also never took for granted how hard it was to conceive the twins, so like many others before us, didn't think it could happen just like that. Not getting into too many details, we lost the baby early, at about 6 weeks, and it wasn't easy, but we knew it just wasn't meant to be yet. God had a plan for us, and this was all a part of it. After the loss, we talked about when we wanted to have more, and decided we wanted at least a 2 year gap before the next baby, and it would happen when it was right.
This time I decided to try temping to see if I could figure out my cycles and if I was ovulating. I started a few months early just to learn how it worked. I loved it! It was so fascinating to me. After two months, I had figured it out, and the third month, but first month not avoiding, resulted in baby 3. We feel extremely blessed that it happened this way, and I am no stranger to the pain of the struggle when trying to conceive. I hope nothing more than to provide hope for others. Temping is complicated, and a little confusing at first, but I thought of it as just a learning experience rather than letting it stress me out. So it really helped me.
After any loss, you worry that much more about the next baby. But we are excited and hopeful for this little lady.
Decorating the twins' nursery was by far one of my favorite projects to take on! So at five months pregnant with our little loves, I eagerly took on the task. I am a total planner, and I knew it was something I needed to have completely finished and ready by the time the babies arrived. The only worries I wanted when the babies arrived was taking care of and snuggling them to pieces! That being said, I also know I am a little bit of a perfectionist, and I hate looking at parts of my house feeling I didn't do it exactly the way I wanted. So, I took the time to find the details I wanted, and take on each one little by little. If we could do it ourselves, we did, and when I couldn't find the right piece, I made it myself. This nursery was truly a labor of love, and almost a year from when we began work on it, I am still in love with it.
Boat Cleat Tie-Backs
Grey Buffalo Check Material (curtains were handmade)
Threshold Striped Gold and White Lamp Shade (No Longer Available)
Gray Rocking Chair
If you have questions about any of the other pieces, contact me, or leave a comment below! My husband and I both made a lot of the decor ourselves, and I'd be happy to take custom orders for items at my Etsy shop! Message or comment below for details.
Life with twins… everyone asks what it's like. And honestly, aside from my experience babysitting, it's all I know as a parent. So, when you ask me if it's hard, yes, it's very hard, but isn't all parenting? Life with newborns is never going to be easy, whether you have one, two or five at a time. It's a string of sleepless nights, feeding after feeding, praying that rash is normal, and googling whether or not your baby's poop should be that color...no seriously, we googled those things… I swear we must have googled everything for the first few months. And yes, I know, google isn't infallible or anything, but it helps when you don't want to be living at the doctor's office for every little thing. I found it to be easy enough to deduce what was logical versus what was nonsense from the search results.
But, what's it like having two babies at once? Double everything. For real, there were times I would stop and look around our living room, and laugh at how ridiculous it looked with two of everything piled into it. Our living room looked like a supply room for Jonah's ark. Two carseats on the dining room table, two bassinets, two swings, two bouncy seats, two Johnny jump-ups, two Bumbo seats, two high chairs...you get the idea. Thankfully, we were lucky enough to have been gifted half of most of those things as hand-me-downs from the babies' god parents. But we never expected to need to go out and buy a second of it all!
Honestly, in the beginning, the hardest part was all of the feedings. I thought I was going to lose my mind with what seemed like never-ending feedings. With twins, the only way to let someone else take care of a feeding meant having two people around to bottle feed them. On top of that, if you breast feed both babies, you are there for every feeding no matter what. That's why after a few weeks of breastfeeding, I switched to pumping and bottle feeding. That way I could let someone help me if anyone else was around. Eventually, we figured out what worked and life got much easier. That's something I learned with twins, things get easier as they get older. The beginning is the hardest, when they can't hold their heads up, when both need you at the same time, when they can't walk, or crawl and depend fully on being carried anywhere they go, when both cry at once and it breaks your heart til you finally get the hang of what I call the double snuggle…holding both tightly in my arms singing, and rocking them, usually until they both just fell asleep. But they will grow, and learn to hold their heads up, then learn to sit up, then learn to play together, and eventually will learn to walk on their own, and things will get easier, at least mobility wise. ;)
One of the most surprising things I have found as a twin mom is how many people have told me they wish they had twins!! I love our boys, but I honestly wasn't one of those people who always wanted twins. So when we found out, I was scared. One baby I could handle, but two at once? I wasn't sure if I could do it. I kept thinking there's just no way we are really having twins, but by the third ultrasound, I think it finally sunk in that this was real, and they were both on their way, coming at once, whether I felt ready or not. I had always loved babies, and I have been babysitting since I was 13, so I am no stranger to children, or even babysitting twins, but I never imagined I would be the mother of twins. By nature, I am a planner, so I was terrified because there really isn't a lot that can prepare you for your first baby of your own, let alone for two. But I planned everything possible just to help me cope with the idea. Once I had the boys, there were things that came up that hadn't even crossed my mind prior to having the twins.